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Hello, my beautiful sisters.
You’ve got a vision. A dream. A new goal that lights a fire inside you.
And yet, the person you love the most—the one you share your life with—just doesn’t see it.
Maybe they dismiss it as a phase. Maybe they’re skeptical about the time, energy, and resources you’re putting into it.
Or maybe they just don’t understand why this is so important to you.
And sis, that can feel lonely.
You want their support. You want them to celebrate your wins and hold your hand through the struggles. But instead, you’re met with silence, doubt, or even resistance.
So, what do you do? Do you give up? Do you shrink yourself? Do you put your dreams on the back burner so they feel comfortable?
Absolutely not.
Let’s talk about how to navigate this, stand firm in your vision, and keep moving forward.
Your Vision is a Gift
I want you to hear me when I say this: your vision was given to you, not them.
Sometimes, the people closest to us don’t understand our goals because they don’t share our perspective.
They may see risk where you see opportunity. They may worry about failure where you see growth.
And truthfully, they may even feel a little insecure about the changes you’re making.
And that’s not always a reflection of you—it’s their own fears, their own mindset, their own way of seeing the world.
But here’s where it gets tricky: you can’t let their doubts become your doubts.
If you allow their uncertainty to seep into your spirit, you’ll start questioning yourself. You’ll start second-guessing your dream. And before you know it, you’ll have talked yourself out of your own success.
And we are NOT doing that, sis.
So how do you move forward when your significant other just doesn’t get it?
Practical Steps You Can Use
1. Communicate Clearly
Your partner may not understand what you’re doing simply because you haven’t broken it down in a way that makes sense to them.
Instead of just saying, “I want to start a business,” try explaining why this matters to you and how it fits into your shared life.
For example:
- “This goal is important to me because it allows me to create something I love while also building financial security for us.”
- “I know it takes time, but this is my way of creating a future where we have more freedom.”
2. Set Boundaries Around Your Dream
If your partner isn’t supportive, you may need to set emotional and time boundaries to protect your energy. That might mean:
- Choosing not to discuss your progress with them if their words make you doubt yourself.
- Finding an accountability partner outside your relationship who can uplift you.
- Carving out dedicated time for your goals without feeling guilty about it.
3. Show, Don’t Just Tell
Sometimes, people need proof before they believe.
If your partner doesn’t understand your vision now, let them see it in action. Start making progress. Let them see your growth, your small wins, your increasing confidence.
Success has a way of silencing doubt.
4. Don’t Seek Permission
Listen, sis. You do NOT need validation from anyone to go after your dreams.
Would it be nice to have their support? Absolutely. But is it necessary? No.
If you wait for people to approve your vision, you’ll be waiting forever. And you don’t have that kind of time.
5. Reevaluate If Necessary
Now, let’s be real—if your partner’s lack of support is turning into emotional sabotage, it may be time to reassess the relationship.
A healthy partnership should encourage growth, not stifle it. If they’re actively holding you back instead of cheering you on, that’s something to reflect on.
It’s One Foot in Front of the Other
You are not alone in this, sis. Every successful woman has faced resistance at some point. The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is persistence.
Your dream is real. Your vision is valid. And you are fully capable of bringing it to life—with or without their approval.
The people who don’t understand today might be the same ones clapping for you later. But even if they’re not? You keep going anyway.
Uplifting Call to Action
So here’s what I want you to do:
- Write down why your goal matters to you. Make it so clear that no doubt—yours or anyone else’s—can shake it.
- Decide one action step you can take this week that moves your dream forward. Just one.
- And if you’re feeling unsupported, find a community that lifts you up. You do not have to do this alone.
Sis, your vision is yours for a reason. Now go chase it.
I’ll see you in the next one. Stay strong, stay focused, and keep believing in yourself. 💜✨
