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Hello, my beautiful sisters.
Let’s have a real conversation today—one that every woman on a mission needs to hear.
If you decide to step up, stand out, and go after what you truly want in life…
They will come for you.
Not everyone will cheer for you. Some will question you. Some will doubt you. Some will try to tear you down just because you dared to be bold, different, and unapologetically yourself.
And if you’re not ready for it, it can shake you. It can make you wonder, “Am I doing the right thing?” or even worse, “Maybe I should just stop.”
But let me tell you something right now: DO NOT STOP.
Because if they’re coming for you, it means you’re making waves. It means you’re doing something worth noticing. And most importantly, it means you’re growing.
So let’s talk about how to recognize it, handle it, and rise above it—because trust me, sis, you are built for this.
Empathy and Understanding
I know how it feels. You’re out here working hard, moving with purpose, trying to build something meaningful.
But suddenly, the whispers start.
🔹 “She’s changed.”
🔹 “Who does she think she is?”
🔹 “She’s doing too much.”
And sometimes, it’s not whispers—it’s full-on criticism, shade, or even attempts to block your progress.
It can come from strangers. It can come from people you thought supported you. It can even come from the ones closest to you.
And let’s be honest—it hurts. No one wants to feel attacked, misunderstood, or doubted.
But here’s what you need to remember: people don’t attack what doesn’t threaten them.
If they’re coming for you, it means you are stepping into a level they never expected you to reach.
Reframing the Focus to Being Fueled
Here’s what you need to understand, sis:
🔥 Success will always attract opposition. If nobody has anything to say about you, it means you’re not making enough noise.
🔥 Some people can only support you as long as you stay the same. The moment you elevate, it exposes their own fears and insecurities.
🔥 Criticism is proof of impact. The only people who never get criticized are the ones doing absolutely nothing.
So instead of letting negativity slow you down, let it fuel you. Instead of backing down, stand even taller.
Because their doubt does not define your destiny.
Practical Steps to Handle the Hate & Keep Moving
1. Expect It & Don’t Take It Personally
- Understand that this is part of the journey. Everyone who has ever done something great has faced resistance.
- Realize that their reaction is about them, not you. It’s their fears, their limitations, their jealousy—not your problem.
- Don’t waste time explaining yourself to people who have already decided to misunderstand you.
2. Keep Your Focus on Your Mission
- Every minute spent worrying about what others think is a minute taken away from your goals.
- Ask yourself: “Will this matter in five years?” If not, let it go.
- Don’t get distracted by negativity—stay locked in on your purpose.
3. Strengthen Your Circle
- Surround yourself with people who are also leveling up. They won’t hate on you—they’ll push you to go even harder.
- Limit your access to those who drain your energy.
- Find mentors, friends, or communities that support your growth, not resent it.
4. Let Your Actions Speak Louder Than Their Words
- You don’t have to clap back. You don’t have to argue.
- Just keep winning. Keep building. Keep growing.
- The best response to doubt is undeniable success.
5. Protect Your Mindset
- Affirm yourself daily: “I am worthy. I am capable. I am unstoppable.”
- Journal your wins—remind yourself how far you’ve come.
- Block, mute, unfollow—do whatever you need to do to keep negativity out of your space.
Here’s Why You Should Smile When They Come For You
Sis, they will come for you—but they will not stop you.
They can talk, they can doubt, they can throw shade—but they cannot take away what is meant for you.
You are too powerful to be shaken by opinions.
You are too focused to be distracted by negativity.
You are too blessed to be bothered by people who don’t even know your full story.
So when they come for you? Smile. It means you’re doing something right.
Uplifting Call to Action
Here’s what I want you to do:
💡 The next time you hear doubt, criticism, or negativity—pause. Don’t react emotionally. Just ask yourself, “Does this stop my purpose?” If the answer is no, keep moving.
💡 Write down 3 reasons why you refuse to let negativity slow you down. Keep it as a reminder.
💡 Go be bold, be brilliant, and be unshakable.
Because **this is your season, and nothing—**I repeat, nothing—can take it from you.
Now go claim what’s yours. 🚀
