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Hello, my beautiful sisters.
I see you.
I see the way you are pushing forward, how you’re dreaming bigger, and how you’re refusing to settle. And yet…the moment you start reaching for more, the haters show up.
They roll their eyes. They whisper. They pretend to support you but secretly hope you fail.
But here’s the thing, sis—your success is NOT just about money,, validation, and being seen.
You want success in your peace. In your purpose. In your relationships. In your mental and spiritual growth. You want to live a life that’s aligned with your values, your faith, and your future.
And that’s a good thing.
It’s Hard When Others are Praying on Your Downfall
But let’s be real.
The moment you decide to step up, someone will try to hold you back. It might be that so-called friend who makes passive-aggressive comments.
It might be a family member who doesn’t understand why you’re changing. It might even be your own self-doubt whispering, “Maybe they’re right.”
And because we’re human, sometimes we start questioning ourselves.
We wonder if maybe we should just stay where we are to keep the peace. We think, “Maybe it’s safer to shrink.”
But sis… playing small to make other people comfortable is NOT your destiny.
Honestly, No one Wants to be a Loser
Let’s flip this for a second. Imagine waking up one morning, rolling over to your partner, and saying:
“You know what, babe? I think I want us to lose.”
Can you even imagine that? Telling your best friend, “I hope we fail.” Looking at your children and saying, “I don’t want you to be great.” It sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? Because deep down, nobody WANTS to be a loser.
Yet, when people hate on your success—whatever success looks like for you—it’s really a reflection of their own fear. Some people are so afraid of failing that they never even try. And instead of pushing themselves forward, they focus on pulling others down.
But you, my sister? You are built for more.
What Success Really Looks Like
Success is not just about the money and validation. It’s about:
✅ Having peace in your spirit.
✅ Waking up knowing your work has purpose.
✅ Setting boundaries and refusing to tolerate disrespect.
✅ Building healthy relationships that pour into you, not drain you.
✅ Living in alignment with your faith, your values, and your vision.
And the ones who can’t handle that?
They don’t deserve front-row seats to your journey on your stage.
Not everyone is meant to go where you’re going. Some people will fall away, and that’s okay. You were never meant to carry them in the first place.
Uplifting Call to Action
Sis, today is the day you make a decision. Are you going to let the haters hold you back, or are you going to step fully into the life of success God has for you?
Because let me tell you—when you walk in your purpose, the right people will walk with you. And the ones who don’t? They were never meant for the journey.
So keep growing. Keep shining. Keep moving forward. And as always… leave the haters behind.
“I love you, my beautiful sisters. Now go be great.”
