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Hello, my beautiful sisters!
Let’s talk about goals. I know you’ve been there—setting that shiny, exciting dream that fills your heart with joy and your mind with endless possibilities.
In the beginning, it feels like magic. You’re telling everyone about it, making plans, imagining the day it all comes to life.
But then reality sets in.
The shine wears off, the work piles up, and suddenly that dream doesn’t feel so magical anymore. You might start to wonder, “Why is this so hard?” or even, “Am I good enough to make this happen?”
Let me tell you something: every single person who has ever achieved anything great has felt that same struggle.
Today, we’re diving into Five Ugly Truths About Goals—truths that no one talks about but that you need to know.
Why?
Because knowing these truths will help you push through when things get tough. Let’s get real about what it takes to go after your dreams, and I promise to give you practical steps to keep you moving forward.
Facing Moments of Doubt
I know it can feel like the world is against you when you’re chasing something big.
You’re giving it your all, and still, the results aren’t showing up. Or maybe you’re looking at what it will take to get there—time, money, connections—and it’s overwhelming.
You’re not alone, sis.
We all face these moments of doubt.
It’s easy to start blaming yourself or thinking you’re not capable, but I’m here to tell you that’s not true.
Goals are tough because they stretch us—they pull us out of our comfort zones and ask us to grow. And that’s hard work. But it’s also necessary work.
The Five Ugly Truths About Goals
- They Take Time
It’s tempting to believe in overnight success, but the truth is, most goals take time—lots of it. You won’t always see progress right away, and that can make you feel like you’re failing. Healing Step:- Break your goal into small, manageable milestones.
- Celebrate each one, no matter how small. Progress is progress.
- They Require Commitment to the Struggle
No one talks about how hard it is to stay committed when things get messy. There will be setbacks, obstacles, and days when you feel like giving up. That’s just part of the process. Healing Step:- Keep a journal of your “why”—the reason you started in the first place.
- On tough days, go back to that journal to remind yourself what you’re working toward.
- They Take Resources
Whether it’s money, time, or energy, goals require an investment. Sometimes you won’t have all the resources you need upfront, and that can feel discouraging. Healing Step:- Start where you are with what you have.
- Look for free tools, budget-friendly options, or mentorships that can help you grow.
- You’ll Need a Network
Big dreams often require big connections. The truth is, you can’t do everything alone, and that’s okay. Building a supportive network is key to reaching your goals. Healing Step:- Seek out communities of like-minded people.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice—it’s not a sign of weakness.
- Results Are Slow to Show Up
One of the hardest truths to accept is that results won’t show up right away. This is where most people give up, but if you stay consistent, you’ll get there. Healing Step:- Focus on daily actions instead of the big picture.
- Trust that the seeds you’re planting today will grow in time.
Encouragement & Uplifting Call to Action
Sisters, I want you to hear me loud and clear: just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s not meant for you.
Every time you feel like giving up, I want you to remember that struggle is part of success. The hard days are what make the achievement so much sweeter.
Take these truths and let them empower you, not discourage you. Let them remind you that you’re capable of overcoming whatever stands in your way.
Now, here’s your call to action:
Think about one goal you’ve been working on—or maybe one you’ve been scared to start.
What’s the first small step you can take today? Write it down and commit to it. And when you’ve done that, come back and share it with me in the comments or with your sisters in this community.
You are not alone on this journey. Together, we’re building dreams, healing hearts, and making moves. Until next time, stay blessed and stay focused.
You’ve got this, sis!
